I spent 15 years as a Disability Management Consultant helping people that were injured return to their way of life. What I realized quickly is that most people when they are hurt are looking for answers. They want to know they are going to be ok.
They want someone to tell them what's going to happen and when.
They want to know what they should expect and what are the long term effects of an injury if any.
Fear is natural. It's been given to us to protect us. It serves a purpose. The problem happens when fear consumes our every thought.
It's normal to be afraid of what the doctor or physiotherapist may say. The answers you get may not be what you were hoping for.
However, it isn't helpful if you're so afraid that you don't go see the doctor or attend treatment and now your injury is worse and the recovery is tougher and longer.
The strategies I use help identify your fears and then we work to break them a part so that they are no longer an issue. In some cases, you may still have the fear, but it doesn't affect you in the same way which allows you to attend treatment and focus on your recovery.
Having the right supporting cast can work to significantly improve your recovery. If a loved one is injured, it's like a mystery box. You have no idea how they will respond.
Depending on how the injured person in your life reacts to their injury, you could find yourself dealing with a variety of emotions or situations. Arguments can arise from the simplest of situations.
Some people will talk non-stop about their injury. It consumes them. If you find yourself in this situation as much as you'd like to get that person to "shut up", it's not the best response.
The first thing to know is that in many cases a person is looking for sympathy. However, being sympathetic doesn't serve them. It reinforces their current disability and they focus on the pain of being less than.
You want to meet them where they are and try to understand how they're feeling. This is called empathy. You want to be empathetic.
Notice negative patterns and from an empathetic position help them create new and empowering patterns.
If it's reasonable, attend an appointment with them to learn more about their injury and the recovery process. By doing this, you can be the voice of reason when it feels like their world is spinning out of control.
"I used to play with tenacity. I never once worried about my body. My focus was on being the best.
When I got injured, it was like my body let me down. Even in the gym as I was rehabbing I felt
like I was testing it to trust it again. Trying to get confidence that it would hold up under the stress.
I couldn't have imagined how difficult it would be mentally to come back from that. I remembered
what you told me and I shifted my focus. I remembered the words of my surgeon and my physio. I
figured all that work came down to now. I had to have faith that the hard work would hold up. After
that first hit, I got up and realized I was good. Then the next and the next. With each hit I felt like
myself again, I felt that confidence truly grow and trust that my injury was now behind me."
Each person's challenge is unique to them. The principles I use with clients gives them the tools necessary to get the confidence to test their limits. Which builds trust between them and their body, and because of this trust, they can achieve more than they ever imagined.