The Top 5 Beliefs Holding You Back and How to Overcome Them Today!

What does it mean to take a leap of faith? I don’t mean in a religious sense, but for some that is what they are looking for. I often ask questions like:

·        What are you leaping into?

·        What is leaping?

·        Even more so, who or what do you have faith in?

·        Is faith a way of life or the destination?

This article will talk about the beliefs that can limit you in different areas of life. Whether that’s relationships, work, life…these are the most common limiting beliefs that go through our minds.

When you google faith, it says:

“complete trust or confidence in something or someone”

I like this description. Because this is exactly where we often get hung up. The first place most people lack faith…is in themselves.

This couldn’t be further from the truth. This belief is an insecurity where you’re believing that you’re unworthy of love. Somewhere in your past you encountered a situation where you felt this belief to be true. This insecurity can wreck a relationship whether you notice it consciously or unconsciously. Everyone deserves love, but to find it and maintain it you need to let go of false beliefs.

When you are insecure, you can avoid situations that could result in a relationship. Some seek a negative relationship to validate these beliefs. Others when they feel like they are in a good relationship will defer to jealousy or self-sabotage questioning your partner until the relationship falls apart. Once again confirming your belief.

THE KEY:

Are you Single?
If you are single, understand that you do deserve love. There is a process to changing this belief, and it begins with honesty. Usually there is something you’re focusing on from your past to confirm this belief. How different does life look when you let this go, notice something different, or appreciate something you didn’t previously?

This is just the beginning, but already this can place cracks in the foundation of this negative belief.

Are you in a Relationship?
If you are in a relationship and struggle with insecurity, begin with the positive intent. What is this? It means what is the positive intent of this belief for you. In most cases it’s trying to protect you, but is it really doing it’s job or is it hurting you by the way your relationship is going.

You want to also look at the positive intent of your partner. How do their actions speak on a larger scale? What is it about their actions that can show that they have a positive intent as part of this relationship? This can be the start of creating new and healthy beliefs in your relationship.

Whether this is in relationships, work, or life the thought of rejection can take an emotional and physical toll. It’s been proven that rejection leads to a lot of different physical reactions. Even if it’s rejection you created in your mind, your body will react the same way.

What if rejection was just a label that you gave to a situation to create a meaning?

You were asking for something or wanting something and the other person or the organization declined your request. Were they really rejecting you? Is it possible that they were rejecting something else versus you specifically? Perhaps there is something going on within them or their organization that would prevent them from granting your request.

Finding a new meaning to the event, a meaning that helps you continue forward can help you overcome this limitation.

Are you that fearful that the thought of rejection prevents you from even taking action?

If this is the case, what are the thoughts that you are having that prevent you from taking action. What are you seeing or reacting to? 

In our coaching sessions I can show you techniques that almost instantly change the way you feel and react to situations such as these.

Somewhere along your life you bought into this notion that you don’t have what it takes. That you don’t have enough money, education, time, or abilities. 

What if I ask you:

What is it that you want?

Studies have shown that if you write your goals down and create the plan to achieve these goals that you will accomplish more than those that don’t write or plan their goals.

Why is this important?

If you don’t write or plan your steps, all you have is an idea. When you write it down the idea becomes real. When you plan and move it becomes an action.

If you believe you don’t have what it takes, then start by writing down the destination. What is it that you want? Then look at your current situation and identify the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Then put a plan in place to fill that gap so you can get where you want to go.

In my coaching sessions we dive deeper into identifying the gaps in your goals to show you that you do have what it takes to craft the life you’re looking for. To achieve the results that are possible. If you can think it you can achieve it with the proper plan.

Often when people say that they could never do something it’s followed up by never trying. Ask yourself then…”How do you know that?” If you’ve never tried it, how do you know you can’t do it?

Maybe you have tried and gave up thinking: "you could never do that."

The fear of failure is often what prevents people from pursuing things in life. It’s a crippling fear…the #1 fear that prevents people from being successful. How then can you use this fear?

The reason we don’t get what we want is we run out of resources. We call these resources: time, money, skills, or anything that would help us achieve what we want. The key is to ask yourself how to gain the resources to become successful.

Here’s a secret.

No matter if you are educated or not. Financially well off or struggling. Tall or Short. The President of the United States or the homeless person down the street.

We all have been given the same thing.

Each day we have been given 24 hours, 1, 440 minutes, 86, 400 seconds. Time is not biased. It doesn’t care about your background or your story. Each day you start off with the same amount of it as the person next to you.

Why is it then that some people excel with their time and others use it as a reason for not accomplishing more?

Have you actually tracked how much time you spend on social media? Calls that take up time and away from what you need to be doing?

When does a person truly change? It’s when they MUST change!

We all know we SHOULD go to the gym. We SHOULD eat healthy. We SHOULD get more sleep.

The problem is:

·        the gym is too far away,

·        it takes an hour to cook when the drive through is 3 minutes, and

·         I know it's 11 p.m. but what’s another 3 episodes of Netflix?

Next thing you know you’re 40lbs heavier and tired all the time.

However, we make time for priorities. We drop everything to take care of the 911. We move right now to the things we MUST do and not the things we should.

                                                                                 WHEN YOU TURN A SHOULD INTO A MUST…THINGS GET DONE!

I too had these same thoughts at one time or another. I took a leap of faith that if I bet on myself I would become successful in my business. That leap ledt to another…and then another… and another. There were times when I didn’t think I was going to make it. That perhaps I wasn’t meant to succeed.

I learned very quickly though that these were lies. Lies that were trying to keep me in my comfort zone and return me to what I was familiar with. I continued to push forward, to get on the ledge time and time again and leap! Having faith in myself and my abilities. Having faith that the man upstairs had my back and is always leading me to success.

I am a man of faith and unless I am asked by a client I don’t bring my faith into our sessions. Whatever you believe in, I always offer a judgement free environment. Safe to explore and share.

What I offer. 

My coaching strategies are not to tell you how to live your life. What is wrong and what is right. It’s to help you identify ways to overcome these challenges. To identify what's working and what's not working. It’s to have someone hold you accountable and walk you through the times that you must, but you are thinking you shouldn’t.

To help you change the pictures in your mind or those thoughts that prevent you from taking action. Old stories that don’t serve a purpose and only make you feel miserable.

To let go of the past and create the future they truly want. Many are living their lives based on old movies. Wondering why they can’t get a different result. The are working on an old program that needs to be updated.

How can someone sit and write their goals and plans, when they can’t even get out of bed?

How can someone enjoy their work, when anxiety is invading their thoughts telling them it’s all going to fall apart?

My coaching strategies are developed so that quickly, I show you how to take control of your thoughts. How to get you into a state where you can envision what you want.

From there we dive deeper to create the plan to close the gap and get you where you want to go.  

To create your custom plan and to identify the beliefs that are limiting you, book a FREE 30 mins session with me. Allow me the opportunity to help you release what’s been holding you back and to believe more is possible.